Before I join Xiaoli and her group coaching, I have many limited beliefs and fear of relationship, especially fear of emotional intimacy. Within a short period of time, Xiaoli and few ladies from group coaching, and the module that Xiaoli put together helped eliminate some of my fear and limiting beliefs. With letting go and healing from the past, I was able to walk into an Amazing relationship with my boyfriend after 2 months of help from Xiaoli and few ladies.
Now, after dating for 3 months, my boyfriend talked about the future together which includes purchasing a home together and giving a set of keys to his condo if I’m ready to visit him. Xiaoli and few ladies had transformed my blissfully single life to being happily attached. I’m so glad to be a part of Xiaoli group coaching. It had made a significant impact in my life.
I now approach relationships differently. With the information that was provided to me through the coaching sessions, I realized how I’ve failure in the past, and how I can succeed in the future and have an amazing, healthy, fulfilling, and romantic lifetime partnership.
Last but not least, Xiaoli is very understanding and generous with her time and energy. She always there for me when I have questions and concerns. She would guide me to the right path.

Sandy V.

I had been out of dating scene more than 15 years. After divorced and being single for many years, I wasn’t sure how to get back on dating. But I truly desire to find a partner to share the rest of life with.


I am so glad that I took the courage to join Xiaoli’s coaching program. It made my online dating experience so much easier and smooth just by following Xiaoli‘s guidance step by step. I tried online dating before, but it was a terrible experience only attracted wrong guys and never actually had 2nd dates. This time the quality of my dating pool is much better.


Xiaoli helped me on my profile writing and identified my limiting beliefs and old relationship patterns. Huge breakthrough! Now I am with this guys on 6th date. Things are going well. Through this program, not only I became more comfortable communicating with men and ask for what I want, also more confident about myself and who I am.


Big gratitude to you Xiaoli and your coaching

Sara H.

"Xiaoli, meet Phil. We met in the most unexpected circumstance, place and timing. He treats me really well, not just opening doors, etc., but he cares about me a lot. We have great connection.


I am using all of your techniques in this relationship. He says our communication has been wonderful and he appreciate me just the way I am. I feel soooo comfortable and at ease with him. Heck, I am in my sweatpants and t-shirt and he still thinks I am beautiful and sexy. We have been communication a lot, having a lot of fun and enjoying the time we spend together.


Thank you!!! I will share the news with the group soon. All the things you have said, the whole process, self-love, the universe, it is all true! The seed you sowed in me during the coaching has blossomed. It wouldn’t happen if I didn’t meet you or be in your class and listen to all the wisdom you shared unconditionally!


Thank you, Xiaoli”

Sandy V.

They say that the best things happen at the most unexpected circumstances and I couldn’t agree more. Xiaoli and I found each other on social media. At that time, I was debating if I should start dating again after a recent break up.


Xiaoli has been a wonderful coach and friend who’s helped me open my eyes and heart to loving again after being disappointed time and again. She is someone who has been there done that and could truly empathize what most of us have gone through. She comes across as a strong yet gentle woman who never make you feel like you’re failing or have to do things you don’t feel like doing. Through her coaching, I feel I’ve blossomed into a woman who is unapologetically me, who has been able to look past disappointments and face the world with a brand new vision and hope. 


I’m happily taken. He found me after I found myself, and accepts me for who I am. Thank you so much Xiaoli. I’m forever grateful. 


Love you! 


Xiaoli is a very intelligent and smart coach who understands people very well. She has a lot of effective tools to help you with your needs immediately. 

Over the long haul, she can work with you to really connect with your mind and soul align them. I really enjoyed working with her because after working for 4 months, I am not confused about my romantic life and career anymore. I accept myself, understood myself and at a content place even if things don't go my way.



Just happens that I am with a guy that loves me right now too and I love him.

I highly recommend Xiaoli because she is really good! She gets down to the root cause with great clarity and has a very natural and easy to understand process for you to get the idea. And she really empowers women.


I am very impressed and really happy I found Xiaoli!



I came from a very traditional and orthodox family. Arranged marriages were still very much the norm. However, I always felt that something was missing – I wanted more than the normal description of an arranged marriage. When I moved here, I decided to begin dating.

Online dating felt too artificial, onerous and risky. I didn’t know how to do this. When I started coaching with you, for the first time, I felt hopeful. Dating was an exciting journey and not a burdensome prerequisite to finding the love of my life. You helped me change my perspective on that. More than that, with you, I stumbled upon core beliefs and attitudes holding me back that I never knew I had! I understood, for the first time, what I was really looking for. 6 months later, I see how my relationships around me have improved. The greatest gift I received was that I became a better version of myself. Thank you Xiaoli- I hope you continue to impact lives as you did mine.

Vassani J.

I have the honor to be coached by Xiaoli since last October. I was lost in my life with no sense of purpose. I was unhappy in my marriage, and was starting my new career as a realtor. It was one of the most difficult periods in my life. 

Xiaoli helped me understand that the more vulnerable and true I can be to myself and my past relationships, the more I can heal from past wounds and move on positively to the life that I envision. Her individual coaching sessions are very effective and the weekly sessions truly helped me smoothly progress through my journey. I am much happier, more confident and at peace than I was one year ago. Without Xiaoli, I would not have survived the most difficult stage of my life while raising two children on my own. Her compassion, expertise, and passion are what make her an excellent coach. I would recommend her one-on-one coaching to women who have not been successful in finding themselves and the love they deserve.

K. Lee

I had been working with Xiaoli for 6 months. Her coaching really helped me to get out of my comfort zone, built confidence about myself. It helps me to understand human psychology, difference between men and women. 


Most importantly I learned how to deal with different dating situations and communicate more effectively with men. I had been out of dating for so long, Xiaoli guided me step by step. 


With the knowledge and skills I learned from the coaching, it certainly made my journey to find my love much easier. 


Thank you for all the guidance.

Kate C.

Before I started working with Xiaoli, I felt sad, lost, abandoned, lonely and depressed. During our 6-month coaching program, Shirley really helped me breakthrough my old limiting beliefs and cleared up my vision for life and for my relationship.


Now I am more confident and happily in relationship.


I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your time and guidance. I’m in such a better place mentally, emotionally and spiritually and attracting wonderful people in my life and experience the fulfillment of my desires.


Thank you Xiaoli.

Yen L.

I am a very independent woman and was always proud of that. After a few broken relationships, I didn’t think I need a man in my life. But despite the success in career, I did feel something missing and life was not complete.


Xiaoli‘ s coaching changed my perspective. She helped me figure out what prevented me to find love.


I always had a bad perspective about online dating but decided to give it try with Xiaoli ‘s coaching program because not only she found her love online, also her coaching topics are very intriguing and refreshing to me.


Maybe I was lucky, with Xiaoli’s guidance on profile, photos and dating skills etc., I found my boyfriend Ken in two months.


I can say I happily graduated from this program.


Thank you Xiaoli!

Julie J.

As grew up in a dysfunctional and a broken family, there's always an empty feeling inside me. I spent my entire life looking for love, as a result, I have had failed so many relationships, I was chasing wrong men over and over again to get "love" from them, so all men ended up cheating on me over and over again, I did not know how to protect myself from dating life. I felt void. I went to few therapists, all they told me was to protect myself; however, they did not tell me "how" exactly, or I did not get it. I was continuously living in a "hopeless and helpless" seeking for love situation. I am still single, as result.


Then, I met Xiaoli, one of your "self love" coaching was so powerful. The healing power was released inside me...I felt a heavy chain been broken and a light took me out of a darkness, that frighten little girl first time in her entire life, felt being loved, by herself, a grown up, strong and self-content woman, Through Xiaoli's coaching, first time, I felt loved and first time, I learned I could love myself, even when no one would or will. This is a huge break through in my life, a big mile stone I came across, I felt I finally can put my broken family behind, they don't represent me and I should not live in the shadow of my broken family and felt ashamed, first time, I finally understood it was not my fault. I couldn't thank Xiaoli's coaching enough, you are so positive and knowledgeable, a great coach. Through your coaching, I also discover that I need to improve myself and re-build myself and re-build my life, especially a love life, so I can hopeful a loving man, my true love will coming to my life.


I am still learning love, how to love, how to receive love, and I hope my break-trough experience with your coaching, can help another to get healed and be able to forgive our family and to build our own family. We will have sections to go and I can't wait to learn a lot more from you...I am finding a way to find love. Thank you. 

Xiaoli helped me to get really clear on what I want and need in a relationship. She also gave me several different tools to use to help me identify what triggers me and why and how to communicate more effectively .


All of the work we did together has helped me to get clearer on my goals in life and the steps I need to take to achieve them, as well as who I want in my life to share them with.


She helped me to reclaim my voice and I am very grateful. It was a wonderful working experience with you!”

Grace C.

Jen L.

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